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[DAZZ192]

sex should be ok at any age, but i reckon that 18 would be the best age. I mean you dont want like 13year girls getting pregnent. Anyone under 18 probably doesnt have enough responsiblity for haveing a kid. But it just depends on how mature you are in the end. but i say 18

[Ragamuffin]

I stated in my post that it depends per person there is no specific age just a general guidline. It makes my blood boil when people don't read the whole post and make assumptions

Hey genius, what makes you think that poster was specifically taking to you? Get over yourselfIt's appropriate to have sex when as soon as you feel like it, simple. If parents didn't coddle their kids so much then so many of the world's problems would be solved.

[LizasLilProtege]

Wow, I'm surprised at how many of you feel that the 14/15 range is appropriate. Some of that may come from the median age range found in the members here, who oftentimes are younger, I don't know. When I was a teenager, I actually totally would have agreed with you, because I thought that I (along with just about everyone I knew) was ready. It didn't seem like such a big deal at the time. Simple biology; animals don't wait that long to have sex, why should we?I now speak from experience of coming out the other side of this, currently 24 years old. Thinking about this now, I have the thought of "Oh my god, what was I thinking?!" 15 seems so YOUNG now, how could I have ever considered myself ready to make a life altering decision like that that young? (Oh yes. I don't know about you guys, because I've never been one of you, but speaking for the ladies... Even if it doesn't make you think much about it at the time, sooner or later it will catch up with you, and if you're not still with that same person you lost your virginity to, it's a pretty safe bet you're going to feel some regrets at not waiting at least a little longer.) I don't believe that there is one set magical age that everyone is ready to have sex at. Physically, you're ready to have it when you hit puberty, sure. But there's SO many psychological factors that play in that you never think when you're that young will affect you. And having witnessed not one but TWO younger siblings of mine become teenage parents now (both right in that age bracket), I've become a very strong believer of this addage: If you're not ready and equipped to raise a child, you should NOT be taking the risk. Sure, you can use condoms, the Pill, what have you. Accidents happen. (STDs also happen.) Then where would you be? Now, before anyone jumps down my throat, I'm not anti-teen parenting. I've met many who've handled the situation very maturely (and better than certain adults I know) and raised lovely, well-adjusted children. To those teenagers, I applaud them for their efforts. But most teenagers are not ready to become parents, let's face it. Even if you think you can, it will inevitably alter your life forever. Chances are, whatever dreams you had of "growing up to become" are going to be put on the backburner to raise this child. Why would you want to throw your life away like that?On the other hand, I don't feel like everyone should be wedding night virgins either. (If you want to? More power to you, they are SO rare now. I have the utmost respect for you folks.) I think there's a fine line that can be met of testing the waters to sort of see what you're getting ahead of time and see if you're sexually compatible. I can't imagine anybody waiting until they're 18 to date, so chances are, they're going to be having sex younger than that. I ultimately feel that the ideal age is different on a case by case basis. If you truly love the person you're with, and I mean REALLY love them, even if you end up breaking up later down the road, you'll have less regrets about giving your virginity up to that person. As this is often one of the biggest factors aside from the obvious pregnancy/STD issues into why young teens having sex is often bad, I think it should be addressed. If you're at the point where you can talk comfortably, openly and frankly about pregnancy, STDs, sexual protection (and actually go through with using it), and neither party is pushing the other into having sex before they're ready, then that's about as ready as you're going to get, regardless of age.

[Ragamuffin]

Well 14/15 isn't so young when you consider the fact that in some cultures people that age have their own families by then.

[Ragamuffin]

If you are not ready to take care of a child than you are not ready for sex. No matter how old you are.

I agree with you to a point, but there's TONS of ways of having sex (protected or not) that don't result in pregnancy.

[Ragamuffin]

The definition I am using for sex is genital penetration. Outside of abstinence there is no- I repeat no- 100% guaranty that pregnancy will not occur. Maybe 99.9%. If i am wrong about that (which is possible) please direct me to a web-site to the contrary.

Okay, but you didn't elaborate that little detail in your last post, you simply said "sex", which lead me to believe that you meant you know, all kinds of sex.Anyways, even with the "standard" method of sex it doesn't mean you'll get pregnant. Condoms? Birth Control? Pulling out? Okay even these methods are not 100% but as you said, 99.9% if we're gonna go with arbitrary numbers here. That's a 1 in 1,000 chance. Personally, I'm liking those odds. And again that's assuming you're talking strictly about vaginal sex here, and like I said before, is far from the only method of getting off.Just seeing this post now btw