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[RockMaster]

I don't think any age is right. You know why? Because age has nothing to do with it. You know, thousands of years ago, kids could get married at 13, often enough. Because they were mature at 13. We pretty much invented childhood in the modern age, which for most people stretched until...about 25 by some liberal estimates. Today's culture is pretty immature. We should expect no more from it's inhabitants. Now don't get me wrong. I'm not some fundamentalist Christian sex hater who thinks sex is merely a tool for procreation. I'm just saying, you shouldn't have sex until you are ready to commit. And what's the ultimate commitment? Marriage. If you can't commit to that, you're not ready. Because you'll have sex with someone, create an emotional and chemical bond, but if you don't commit. That bond will break. And each time you don't commit, it becomes just that much easier not to commit. That's when sex loses its power to glue two human beings together, and becomes an object for pleasure alone, a perversion of its purpose. Not to mention the physical side effects of sleeping around. No wonder HPV, AIDS, and whatnot or so prevalent. Before even the 70's, STD's were rare. Now we have commericals for so called cures and vaccines. There's obviously a market. Even though foundations such as Planned Parenthood never seem to take abstinance into account. Sure, they say they do. They always make a point to mention it before giving any service. But they really encourage it? Provide it as some sort of desirable option? No. Their token effort for "solving" today's problems is laughable at best. And what does this all boil down to? Self-control People today have no sense of delayed gratification. They have to everything that they want, right here, right now. And that leads to a whole host of problems, casual sex included. And for the record, I'm a 17 year-old, and a virgin, so I'm neither your parent nor a hypocrite, before you try to throw either charge at me.

[blackclaw]

I think you should have sex at 20 when u are mature enough

[Hyou_Fushichiou]

I think that you'd have to be at least 15 or so to have sex. Of course, you'd need to be aware of all the consequences and the benefits of engaging in such acts. Some people do it out of peer pressure while others seem to feel a genuine attraction for one another. Still, sex is personal business and I don't think people enjoy that being intruded upon. Also, I don't think abstinence works for some people. Teenagers tend to lose inhibitions at the wrong time, especially when surrounded by others. =/

[RockMaster]

maturation of the brain and body do take a while in humans, usually 18 is a good roundabout number to begin having intimate relationship sex. however, i believe that sexual exploration at younger ages is a good thing. opens them up when their older. and to that degree, i would argue that the system of sexual abstinence education is faulty and actually causing more damage.I got news for you guys, if you look at current rates of population growth, humans are leveling off, soon they're gonna plummet. death rate will be the same, it is simply the birth rate is down. The US has a birthrate of 2.1, thats JUST enough to mitigate early demises and replace your parents. there is no population GROWTH in america, yes, there is a boom bust period, but ultimately, we're staying the same size statistically. Look at russia, they have a negative birthrate. meaning more people are dying then are being born. in India, it used to be between 7-10, now its 5, thats a significant decline. In most western countries, pop rate is declining, so this abstinence bullocks has got to stop. There needs to be sexual application education. Im talking encourage exploring of bodies in a personal private way, being more open with sexuality at a young age, maybe even consensual exploration as long as they follow certain rules, and dare i say, parental supervision. Because lets face it guys, there are too many morons out there who are having kids. some of those smart people need to step up and reproduce before the stupid inherit the earth... and then... well... we'll be screwed in a whole other way.

You do know why the birthrate is going down, right? Every year in America, somewhere between 1 to 1.5 million (I may be wrong, but I'm pretty sure it's close to that) babies are aborted every year. Not because we need more kids having sex. Kids who will undoubtably screw up the life of their kids. And by kids, I mean anyone immature. By immaturity, I mean anyone not willing to commit to one relationship. By that, I mean...well, you get the picture. Basically, if kids could keep it in their pants these days and stop trying to take the easy way out when the don't, we'd be a lot better off. The impending Social Security crisis would not be serious or even existant if we had millions of babies more since Roe v. Wade paying their taxes. Now, what does abortion have to do with having sex? Well, abortion is sort of the cure-all last resort, the safeguard against *gasp* having children. If they could actually just wait and have the kids when they were able to support them (another sign of maturity: delayed gratification), then we wouldn't be having such a problem in the first place. But the ability to have an abortion gives them some confidence and peace of mind that no matter what, their busy life won't be interupted by a little "fun." Ugh.