I disagree to teenage mothers, for it may very well trouble the baby, mother and the mother's parents. The baby would be troubled because perhaps it's mother doesn't want the child and it were to be brought up to adoption where he/she would wonder their whole life why had their parents abandoned them which would cause misery over an innocent child. If the child were to be kept in the family, it may mistake it's mother and father to be the the mother's parents. That would be trouble in the future where as they may tell everyone that their parent were actually their grandparents and may be trouble if police found out * READ IF BORED! LONG STORY(couldn't explain very well but this happened to and friend I know. He was applying for a job, which was strict, and they asked personal information. They had asked what his parents names were, not that personal but, he told his grandparent's names. The job place, not sure what it is, took his DNA, or something, and compared to his grandparents. When they found out that it wasn't a strong a match as to his sister, they had realized that they weren't his real parents. And one way led to another, he got arrested for i don't know what reason but had to stay there for some time.)It would be trouble for the mother for she may have to leave the school for her last months of pregnancy which is bad for her education. Not to mention their future life struggles of having to take care of a child as well as themselves before she has truly been educated to have a good paying job to be able to support her own small family. But, if the parents were to help, that would give the mother a boast, unless they take that offer throughout the child's life then the mother wouldn't truly learn to be and adult. Also it's painful, to have to deal with a child and their own life. Even if they do not love the child, deep down inside, she will get hurt if something were to happen to her child. This being called, worry.For the parents, it would cause great worry. They may be afraid that their daughter may not be the good girl they thought she was. The parents would either help their daughter or punish her for being irresponsible. Even if they say it is alright and that they accept the new child, they do feel troubled. It would, yes, help if the mother were responsible but I would highly doubt that she is if she had gotten pregnant in the first place. But if it were forced on her (rape, drugged (still required as rape)) then that would be even more trouble. For since it was FORCED, it wasn't planned, meaning that the mother does not want the child completely, or just very little. In my opinion, I find it troubling around the mother's family as well as herself. I feel that responsibility would be to get a life (education, good paying job, non-violent husband) then she may be able to have a child. But then again that's what I think anyways, and I am just one person.
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Posted 20 July 2009 - 03:12 AM
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Posted 20 July 2009 - 06:31 AM
I think only people who have finished school should have children. For example, If a girl is going good at school then gets pregnant, she will have to eventually leave school. This could destroy her future. If she goes straight back to school and leaves her baby with someone else, the child and the mother's bond will be weakened.But there are some pros. the younger body of the mother can recover faster (I think...), The teen is fitter and has more energy then older parents so they can get up early and go to bed later, and apparently teens have less chance of a miscarriage.Overall, Only responsible teenagers who have left school (around 17-19) should have kids.
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Posted 20 July 2009 - 07:43 AM
Personally i think they just screwed themselves over (no pun intended).It was their fault for having the choice (unless raped) unprotected safe sex.they are now forced to raise children.I don't think there should be teenage mothers because that:1. raises the welfare2. I just think it will be yet another downfall of the human race (maybe overpopulation?)so really try preventing this
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Posted 21 July 2009 - 02:46 AM
i feel really sorry for them because it has to suck when you go to tell your parents or the father. it is their fault most of the time though so i can not say that they shouldnt have to. i just think that when they do they should be a little less ritaculed.GPs were deducted for this post, please read the rules! - reddeath26
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Posted 21 July 2009 - 11:56 AM
It really only depends on whether they are responsible and mature enough. You might see a 15 year old girl that's more mature and responsible than a 40 year old woman.
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Posted 22 July 2009 - 06:15 PM
no one, i repeat no one under the age of 24 is truly ready to have a family. they have not experienced enough, they are not mature enough, and they are not responsible enough to be able to take on the strains that are associated with having a kid.
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Posted 23 July 2009 - 02:03 AM
Stupidest response I've seen in awhile (and that's saying a lot).First, where did you get the age of 24 from? Second, who are you to say who should do what? Lastly, age does not coincide with maturity or financial/emotional stability.no one, i repeat no one under the age of 24 is truly ready to have a family. they have not experienced enough, they are not mature enough, and they are not responsible enough to be able to take on the strains that are associated with having a kid.
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Posted 23 July 2009 - 02:13 AM
Personally, I believe that it's all up to circumstance. I knew a girl who was 17, used protection, and got pregnant anyway. She and her boyfriend decided to keep the child. When people are willing to be that mature about children, it's hard to be against it. Also, if a teenager was raped and impregnated, I couldn't exactly blame them. I would prefer if they placed the kid in adoption or aborted it in that case, but if they chose to keep it based off of their own moral values, that wouldn't be wrong either.If a person was pregnant because they were careless or it was the latest fad (I still remember that news report...) I would be highly against it. A child is meant to have meaning in a mother's life, not to be a regret later in life (at least, in my opinion). I also would say that it's a cultural thing. There were (and probably still are) cultures where teenagers are wed at young ages. I still think this is wrong, but if it's cultural, we're hardly able to change their mindset.
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Posted 23 July 2009 - 04:03 AM
I agree with most ppl on here, i dont agree with children having children. Thats not to say that they arent capable of looking after them properly.I cant understand why these young girls would want to give up their teenage years. i find it shocking when i see young kids as young as 11-12 yr old kissing in the street, whats wrong with girly nights in,listening to music,just chatting. I dont think its right for ppl to say that if young teenagers get pregnant then they should just have an abortion, that just isnt for everyone. sometimes i even wonder, is it the fault of the parents? in some cases i think yes. not all!! but yes,more parents could do more to better educate their children in the knoledge of sex, protection etc
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Posted 23 July 2009 - 07:03 AM
Assuming a girl wants to get pregnant, she needs to be physically and emotionally prepared for the baby. If she is gonna have a baby, she needs to understand the responsibility and stress that comes with it. I think that teenage pregnancy is acceptable as long as the girl understands this. Of course, she will also need people to help her take care of it, and a family with an annual income that will be enough to support a baby. Sadly, a lot of girls just "do it" in the heat of the moment, so many of them aren't prepared for a baby.
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Posted 16 December 2009 - 12:25 AM
I think it must be really hard for teenage mothers since on top of all the responsibilities that come with taking care of a child there are stuff like education, and how they will have the resources to take care of the child. Im sure that even a 20 year would have a hard time with it. I just don't really understand why anyone would purposely put themselves in that kind of situation. Even with adults. If you personally do not have the time, ability or the resources to take care of a child or multiple children, then why be stupid? Like in the case of Octo-mom. What was she thinking when she decided to have eight more kids when she was already struggling with six. I don't think havinga child before you become socially and economically independent and stable is a very good idea. It just makes it burden on yourself and people such as friends and family who you have to rely on.
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Posted 23 October 2010 - 06:28 PM
I actually have a friend who had a child at the age of 15. She was a really good friend of mine and I wasn't really expecting her to be on that kind of situation. Great pressure she bears on her shoulders. You see, her family didn't exactly wanted the child's father to be with her and let them live together and be married someday. As a matter of fact I'm quite glad they wouldn't approve of him as they are still young to be married and frankly, I don't expect them to survive marriage. They'll just want to be separated with each other after a couple of years. The guy's quite immature and I know that for a fact as I also have great knowledge about him.Anyway, She is my friend and although I disapproved of what her actions came to be, We got nothing else to do. The deed has been done. Yes, she did made a huge mistake by doing such an act but I know that she is done with regretting. I mean, every body can make a mistake. It might not be about having a child at an early age but we know that we learned something from it and she did. At the end of the day, Acceptance is always the key to having a peaceful life. She became a mother in such an early age but let's look at the bright side: She got herself a kid that she loves, She's still alive, She learned her lesson and she accepted her consequences, she'll have an early training to motherhood so that she wouldn't have trouble in the future anymore and she has an ever supporting family alongside with her. She's still lucky. Now I know not every teenage mom is as lucky as she is but I know that there is still something that made them keep their lives going and that is what's important. They just have to accept things as they are although acceptance is not as easy at it sounds. They have to face their consequences and let's help them. Let's help them by not dragging them down and make them dwell by their mistakes/ unfortunate events that took place in their lives. Let's help them realize their wrong doing or in other cases, (like those who were mercilessly raped) make them realize that everything in this world happens for a reason and make them stand firm to manage their lives.POINTS were awarded for this post by Molh
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Posted 29 November 2010 - 03:51 AM
Well sure it might help someone change their life, and get off the wrong side of the tracks. Sure it might be a learning experience. Sure, it may be a child of rape or some other unfortunate incident. There are many teenage mothers who successfully raise healthy, good natured children, and go on to have a happy life.But is it right? In my opinion, no. As a teenager, you're just discovering the world and maybe have not matured fully yet. It is a time to have fun and focus on getting the right start in life. It is a time when many are still depending on their parents for financial and emotional support. I think its unfair to bring another life in to the world, not knowing whether you can or can't give them the best, and its unfair to the mother as they lose what much of being a teenager is about.I guess there are some exceptions. And no teenage girl should ever be looked down upon because she is pregnant. But 9 months of your teenage life having morning sickness and cravings? Followed by years of looking after a bawling baby if they don't adopt it out? I think I'll just stick with playing my DS, thanks. ^^
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Posted 16 January 2011 - 01:17 PM
teenage parenthood in this day and age is not good. it used to be normal because of the shorter lifespan and the fact that education was poor and hard to come by making most of your life just working for survival. but nowadays, college and higher education can make up 16 years of a person's life and it can help you out later in life. it'll help with a better job for a better salary for a better financial situation to care for a child. i know not everyone can go to college but it's important to be able to get through high school and have a job so that you're a little capable of getting the right needs for the baby. but when you're a teenage parent, you barely have a high school diploma making it that much harder to find a job which makes it even harder to take care of the baby you irresponsibly gave birth to.
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Posted 05 February 2011 - 12:16 AM
i believe you have the right to opinionate yourself but who are you to say a teen is too young to be a mother. you are not god you do not have the right over who lives or dies. say your mother was a teen mother and she had the same opinion as you. would you even exist then? just saying its people like you that make me a nineteen year old dad, believe 2012 will be the end of us all not cuz of global warming. but closed minded old fashoned individuals with holyer then thou idealsmy feiance (where gettin married before the kid came along btw.) and i are 19. we concived a boy on a night we where drinking. when we found out 2 weeks later she was pregnant (no alcohal was consumed in the 2 weeks or through the pregnancy). she got kicked out of her house, i lived on student wellfair in my own appartment naturally she moved in. i dropped out of school and got a full time job working 12 hours 7pm-7am continentals. and while im working shes at home being a better mother then some 28-40 year old parents. age has nothing to do with your ability to be a parent. its maturity people.If she wasn't responsible enough to either keep it in her pants or use protection, she's not going to be responsible enough to nurture a human being.Teenage motherhood should not happen, at least not when the pregnancy is accidental. And even if it's intended, both parties must have consent from their parents, who are willing to assist them when needed.In my highly controversial opinion, a newly pregnant teenager should get an abortion. If they have no choice but to have the baby but cannot take care of it or find someone who can, put it up for adoption.
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Posted 06 February 2011 - 07:34 AM
It's so wrong for me, especially when I've seen an article (not long time ago) on yahoo, that there's a school in US that about 50% of the girls are pregnanti mean, yeah, it's okay to have it when you're already married, but when school? a big NOit will destroy your career as a student, and it can make you irresponsible for the babiesi feel bad for all of them
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Posted 05 March 2011 - 04:37 AM
This is a really touchy subject but I believe that teenage mothers tend to be very ineffective in the long run, they problem being that they themselves haven't even been around that long so how could they properly raise a child. However I am talking about mothers who are under 17ish if they are above that age I think that there is still a possibility of success, only because there is a possibility at this point that they are in college and have some sort of plan for their life that could some way help them achieve good parenthood.
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Posted 08 March 2011 - 03:28 AM
So long as the girl isn't single. Well, someone does need to take care of the baby, while the other person works, right? And babysitters would just suck the funds right out of you, while friends... well, I dont think they'd make reliable babysitters.
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Posted 10 March 2011 - 01:51 AM
I do not support teenagers that have children. There is more that they can do later in life to make a better place for a baby to come. However if they're already pregnant or had the baby, I would do my best to take care of the baby. Even though I do not support kids having kids, I still want to have that child to have the best life that it could. Discriminating against babies that have teen parents is not going to make the problem better, if not worse at all. If I were to get a girl pregnant I would try and do my best to be a father and try to take care of them both. But I would try to prevent that by all means possible to prevent pregnancy.
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Posted 10 March 2011 - 06:46 AM
I don't support teenagers having sex in any way, but I think that real parents should still help their child out. (Both the parent's of the pregnant, and the two teenagers) If the teenagers learn how to be responsible, they probably won't have sex again for a while anyways. I think it's worse to just ditch your child, without learning your lesson, than to live with it and help your child grow, even if it takes your time and attention.
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Posted 12 March 2011 - 09:40 AM
I don't think it's a good idea - chances are they aren't fully mature and will be completely stressed out by the situationthey won't be able to cope well with the responsibility unless they have family to support themunplanned pregnancies can completely destroy plans for the future and a teenagers life in general - school, work, social life are all affected by the baby's demandspost natal depression would also be a huge problem - possibly not having heard of it before they might not know how to deal with it and to get help (my mum had it with my older sister and although she didn't try killing her, which is a common problem, she didn't take very good care of her and our grandma had to move in to help)however if there is an unplanned pregnancy - i don't support abortion. I think that is murder, and the unethical destroying of a human life. If you were silly enough to get pregnant in the first place you should have to face the consequences and take good care of your child
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Posted 13 March 2011 - 11:32 PM
I don't think teenagers are ready to be mothers because they haven't had enough life experience or maturity. Another thing is, are they able to support themselves independently AND their child? I've heard of a few cases from friends where 16,17 year olds already have children but are living at home and relying on their parents to take care of their kids, and that I think is not fair to the parents as another burden is put on their shoulders.
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Its totally wrong for teenagers to be pregnant for many reasons. At this point of growth, a teenager must focus on how he/she imporve "himself/herself", this means that to be able to be a very successful person in the future he/she must be able to think better than a ten year old kid (this means being able to "think" and to come up with consequences of their actions). If that person thinks that he can support a family, he must consider his current possessions. So, what can a teenager possesses? Disregarding his parent support money and the likes? More or less nothing. Risking a kids like because of insufficient support system from his parents is as good as torture to the kid in his growing years.
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Posted 21 April 2011 - 08:22 AM
We shouldn't be just looking at teenage mothers, but the guys that got them pregnant as well. In general, I think having a baby in your teens is just terrible timing. Also, in many cases, they got pregnant because they were too irresponsible to be careful and use protection. Therefore, they are probably not responsible enough to be taking care of another human life.
