I feel it is discipline up to a point. If a parent or somebody abuses the idea of spanking then it becomes abuse. However I do not feel that spanking should be the first option to discipline a child. If your ways of disciplining a child is not working then the occasional spank is necessary in my opinion. If that spanking becomes too much after a while however, then I feel that it is abuse.
Spanking children-discipline or abuse?
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Posted 20 June 2011 - 11:22 PM
Depends on what kind of 'spanking' you're referring to. I grew up in a household where I was beaten with bamboo rods and belts - my parents also threw sandals at me. Although I agree that this sort of violence can be abused, if done to a certain degree, will teach a child from what's right and what's wrong.When you're younger, the distinction is simply out of fear "If I do this, I'm gonna get hit.", we couldn't possibly understand our parents reasoning. To gain respect out of fear is the only way for a small child to learn. However, once we begin to mature and understand, the beatings become unnecessary and we can listen to logic. Spanking really is only a temporary way of discipline until we get older.
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Posted 09 July 2011 - 08:36 AM
This issue has been of much debate in New Zealand. In 2007 the controversial Anti-Smacking Bill was passed by Parliament. The Bill removes the right for parents to use 'reasonable force' as a means of correcting a child. This law was passed in response to growing reports of domestic abuse in common households. There have been a number of contentious cases since the passing of this law. A grandmother, who grabbed her 5 year old grand daughters arm, was charged with assault. The reason why she grabbed her grand daughter's arm was to prevent her from running out onto a busy road. I would consider this a serious case of injustice. I am all for the protection of child welfare but discipline and the rights of parents are also important. Those against the law see it as a means of government oppression - the government regulating what parents can and cannot do. I think that instead of trying to regulate this area with law, the government should look to implement educative initiatives that would educate parents, in particular on what is and what isn't acceptable disciplinary action. Anyway that's from a New Zealanders prospective 
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Posted 15 July 2011 - 03:53 AM
In my opinion, I believe that children shouldn't be be disciplined by physical contact. Children start out as a blank slate and it's up to their parents and or guardians to add detail to the slate and shape who the child becomes in the future. Spanking or abusing can seriously influence the growth of a child's development. There are factors that play a part in the kind of person a child becomes like environment, hobbies, social life etc. Children are young people that take patience for growth. Spanking a child is like punishing them for not growing up faster. Plus, spanking a young child will frighten them and make them more fragile because they are still learning about the world around them. I do agree that children should be punished but not by spanking them for it takes things too far. It's up to the parents to meet the child at eye-level and decide a proper punishment for them avoiding violence. Children deserve love and patience from their parents as well as understanding, for isn't the journey of life suppose to have this. In conclusion, I highly disapprove of spanking and hope parents and guardians will come to understand as well.
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Posted 31 July 2011 - 02:46 AM
I believe that spanking a child is NOT the way to teach a child the difference between right and wrong. I myself was spanked as a child and it escalated into my father having me eat dish soap. It is abuse for a parent to do that to their child/children. A parent has to create a stable learning environment where their child/children can learn by living their life. The parent/parents should be rolemodels for their child/children. As the parent, you should be very patient with the young child and do NOT get frustrated no matter how "disobient" the child may be. Some children just need to learn somethings on their own. My own brother learned that if he jumps on a bed he will fall off. (Although he didn't cry at all. Instead he laughed. He has a hard head. *sighs* The memories.)This is just what I have experienced over the past 17 1/2 years.
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Posted 31 July 2011 - 06:52 AM
Moderation would work, but spanking is unfortunately a must in my opinion.First, there's no reasoning with a child. You can always teach him about morality, right or wrong, good or bad etc but you cannot expect someone that young to understand what you're talking about. While for most cases you should start with just a verbal warning/teaching (before escalating into spanking for repeated offense), there are incidents you should do the exact opposite. Starting with a minor example, let's say a kid tries to touch a hot kettle. It is imperative to stop him/her permanently because the consequences would mean a lifetime of burns, possible blindness, disfigurement etc. The best way to get the point through immediately would be a spanking (And of course the scolding, teaching, but that is best left later before the kid loses interest). Too often we see parents not taking it seriously enough and regret for the rest of their lives.A more severe example would be a fight, with your child on the bullying side. Spank him/her; I don't need to explain why, but if I was to give a selfish reason it would be not to regret and pay for it later.The above is more of a generic example; every child varies from each other and you should try to understand him/her and seek the best method. You will make mistakes, but that's just life.Poster above. Your father forcing you to eat dish soap? That's not what I call spanking, that's just plain child abuse. Also, while the concept of a role model sounds pretty (And works pretty well actually, but), the truth is, most adults simply doesn't care, and that's an unchangeable fact. Even mothers are no longer mothers.
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Posted 07 August 2011 - 10:47 PM
I think that spanking a child is a good choice in punishment. If a parent was to say something like, "No, don't do that again," without physical consequences, then the child will be more likely to do it again. If there's always the looming threat of getting spanked, children will be more careful about what they do. People say that it's not right to physically abuse children, but that's not abuse. There is no longterm harm to the child. A threat of a spanking worls almost as well.
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Posted 21 August 2011 - 06:38 AM
it sucks that this really is all about a manner of sevarity some spanking is good done right but when the spanking comes to slaping a kid in the face for doing something like saying a curse word its just not right
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Posted 27 October 2011 - 02:01 PM
http://www.dgemu.com...is-spanking-ok/ Topic is a dupe.
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Posted 20 November 2011 - 06:17 AM
When it comes down to spanking, I personally feel that it's a legit form of discipline, but that it can be abused. If a parent is spanking a child in anger, that's never the right way to do it. A parent should communicate clearly to the child that he has done something wrong, and that as a consequence, the child will now be spanked. The point of punishment is to cause some level of pain on the punished, in order that they will hopefully not commit the same wrong again. When a child is young, spankings cause the most pain. As children grow up, groundings or the removal of privileges tend to work better, although a good spanking once in a while is still effective. The parent should never be spanking the child as a way to let out his frustration at the kid. When that happens, that's where potential abuse comes into the picture.
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Posted 07 January 2012 - 01:36 AM
Come on i just got done explaining this in another forum...YES!!! teach those little bastards right from wrong...simple!! 
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Posted 21 March 2012 - 08:00 AM
I am very much anti-spanking, this may have much to do with the fact spankings were given out in my childhood for everything- particularly if my brother did something and I was nearby. Trying to obey both parents at once and forget something when they're barking orders? Spanking. Forgetting something? Spanking. Teacher thinks you looked funny at someone and calls home? Spanking.Most of it was by my dad, who had some severe power issues. Maybe a swat on serious occassions, but what worries me is that some parents or teachers take a right to paddle as free-reign to brutalize children.Recall the videos of Judge William Adams. That's not discipline. That's a wannabe-rapist having a power trip.
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Posted 21 March 2012 - 05:19 PM
I must revise my previous answer. That was two months ago, back when i was still "new".
I don't see why this is such an issue. For years it was alright to spank children, you know to teach them a lesson. Growing up. Yeah i got my ass beat, and in the form of both spanks and the belt. The reason people say it's wrong now is beyond ridiculous. It's because if your in public and someone sees you spank a child that makes you a bad parent. How?! Lets say a mother and her kid were in the grocery store. Kid gets outta line(throwing a tantrum) Then what?!....For me that wasn't tolorated. My father would've took me to the back of the store and beat my ass, much less just spanked me. Now i'm getting off topic, heh. My point is. You can't just let kids(yours or not) get away without any sort of small punishment. It's not right...Even "slapping their patty" (their hand) once in a while when the word "no" doesn't work.
I don't see why this is such an issue. For years it was alright to spank children, you know to teach them a lesson. Growing up. Yeah i got my ass beat, and in the form of both spanks and the belt. The reason people say it's wrong now is beyond ridiculous. It's because if your in public and someone sees you spank a child that makes you a bad parent. How?! Lets say a mother and her kid were in the grocery store. Kid gets outta line(throwing a tantrum) Then what?!....For me that wasn't tolorated. My father would've took me to the back of the store and beat my ass, much less just spanked me. Now i'm getting off topic, heh. My point is. You can't just let kids(yours or not) get away without any sort of small punishment. It's not right...Even "slapping their patty" (their hand) once in a while when the word "no" doesn't work.
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Posted 24 March 2012 - 09:32 AM
IMO, the problem isn't so much parents who spank their children, but the parents who spend more time trying to raise everyone else's kids than their own. People, especially people in this country-- just love policing each other over what amounts to trivial bullshit and personal choices. This is one of those cases.
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