I really hate talking in front of people. I start getting red, my voice gets all cracky, and I start to sweat. I start to get more relaxed toward the end of my but I really want to get rid of my anxiety before I talk. So my question is, how do you overcome/handle nervousness?
How do you handle nervousness?
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Posted 26 February 2010 - 10:02 AM
i believe that you are not just anxious about talking...you are afraid of being rejected or being embarrassed and because of that you feel uneasy around others....you might be a bit of an anti-social type of person...i don't know if what kind of advice could help youbut maybe somebody else will...
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Posted 26 February 2010 - 02:54 PM
start by asking some friends to let you talk in front of them, get yourself a topic and be sure of what you want to say - then build up to more people in the room
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Posted 26 February 2010 - 05:11 PM
Hmm. I just say what I'm really feeling. If there's so many people in front of me and I feel nervous, I'll just do what I normally do when I'm nervous so that it won't feel awkward.
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Posted 03 March 2010 - 04:41 AM
I'd like to say it doesnt affect me, but thats bull. Everyone has performance anxiety (hoho) and my signs of this are speaking faster than usual. I think fast on my feet, so its not so bad, but I force myself to slow down my speech (conciously) to give a more confident air. And also more time to think of the next lie. I mean line.
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Posted 03 March 2010 - 07:28 AM
I subconsciously pace around for no reason when I get nervous. It has become a permanent habit. (lol I self contradicted myself.... habits are permanent)
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Posted 03 March 2010 - 07:38 AM
Haha I do that too. That and excessive swaying. All corrected by rigourous training in class. So actually habits can be made unpermanent.
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Posted 03 March 2010 - 07:40 AM
Swaying eh?I recall a friend of mine swaying so much that we swayed with him when he was talking.It was funny when the teacher joined in./I never really talk in public or infront of a bunch of people.I am very shy and nervous and i'd mess it all up.To handle nervousness I guess i'd try to get some jokes and conversation going so i don't get tense about what to say next...
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Posted 03 March 2010 - 07:57 AM
Haha mocking people when they're swaying is mean! But funny yeah. Making jokes is good, I do that too... all ways of breaking the ice. Once the audience feels comfortable, you feel comfortable too. Self-feeding cycle.
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Posted 04 March 2010 - 11:58 PM
I doubt that I will ever be a good public speaker. It's just a part of my personality to be nervous infront of people I don't know, I have it on paper!One thing I did when I was in school and had to do an oral presentation was to avoid eyecontact and just pretend that I was all alone and ignoring everyone else. Questions from the audience never got their answers since I was back in my seat as soon as I was done speaking. :PIf you can relax at the end, there's still hope for you though. Just practice, talk with people you don't know in the store about absolutely nothing is something one of my friends did, seemed to work 
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Posted 05 March 2010 - 05:11 AM
Smart guy, right here. Anxiety about public speaking stems from a general insecurity about yourself and a lack of confidence in your abilities.There's really no concrete way to overcome these anxieties except to somehow form a better self-image. Take pride in who you are and notice the good things about yourself. Obviously, to complement that, prepare your speeches/whatevers well in advance. That's just another way of boosting confidence.i believe that you are not just anxious about talking...you are afraid of being rejected or being embarrassed and because of that you feel uneasy around others....you might be a bit of an anti-social type of person...i don't know if what kind of advice could help youbut maybe somebody else will...
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Posted 05 March 2010 - 07:35 AM
I usually don't "handle it" and just go in a wreck. Man... I wonder how many other students could tell. But yea, there's not much you can do put work out of it. I can think of 2 solutions. Get more self-esteem or decide that no one else in the world really matters. You are living your own life and what they think shouldn't in the long run affect what you want to do with your future. I mean, you could be scarred for life but let's hope for the best.
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Posted 06 March 2010 - 08:57 AM
As Signum Crucis and Instant Coffee have mentioned, some of it is probably steming from low self confidence. The trick that I was taught, and sometimes actually remember, is that at that moment, you know more about that subject than anyone else in the room (I'm assuming that this is class related, I use this trick for work related presentations). No matter how much you think they know in general, they can't beat you on that subject.There's something to be said about practicing your specific talk, or even off the cuff talking, as much as you possibly can. It's a cliche, but the more you practice something the better you become at it. By practice I mean verbal practice, no reading to yourself allowed, it helps to train away some of the verbal issues people have (such as "Umm..." and the like). Standing while you practice also helps to train away some of the nervous movements that can be distracting and cause trouble.(Unrelated - You know you drink too much coffee when Instant Coffee takes too long. Sorry, couldn't resist).
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Posted 29 August 2010 - 07:20 PM
i dont handle nevousness i am never nervous
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Posted 29 August 2010 - 07:51 PM
Before I start talking to people I recite the litany against fear from Dune "I must not fear.Fear is the mind-killer.Fear is the little-death that brings total obliteration.I will face my fear.I will permit it to pass over me and through me.And when it has gone past I will turn the inner eye to see its path.Where the fear has gone there will be nothing.Only I will remain"Then I take some deep breaths and force control of my mind so it doesn't jump around and make every small mistake a huge fear.
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Posted 19 September 2010 - 05:48 PM
I find having a cigarette and taking a good few deep breaths helps me because I too hate talking in front of people. By the way, I'm not suggesting anyone else should have a cigarette, thats just what I do.
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Posted 20 September 2010 - 01:06 AM
I used to be like you! I still get it a little now, only i get lost for words and stutter alot.
This makes sense and most likily your problem, this was mine. This happend to me about the start of puberty and went on a little after, cant help it. You need to overcome the fear, just tell yourself, you cannot be hurt by talking! Talking is an important part of life a skill that is key for everything!Learning what the issue is, is just as important as learning how to prevent it.you are afraid of being rejected or being embarrassed and because of that you feel uneasy around others....you might be a bit of an anti-social type of person...
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Posted 21 September 2010 - 04:03 AM
im still trying to figure it out myselfone of the best ways to overcome nervousness is to (a) stay calm, (b) practice what you are going to say before you start the conversation, and © dont think about it too much. i have the same problem, and this helps me communicate. if you are too nervous to confront someone, text them, email them, or chat with them on facebook (or anything else like it).
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Posted 22 September 2010 - 01:19 AM
Oh I have to do speeches in front of 100+ people sometimes, and I get extremely nervous...what happens usually is that my mouth gets real dry. So to help I drink plenty of water before hand and I also take real deep breaths. It sure helps!
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Posted 26 October 2010 - 04:39 PM
I stand/sit still with my shoulders relaxed, take a big breath before breathing at a steady pace, close my eyes and divert all thoughts so that all I can see is darkness. It takes about 10 seconds. That usually calms me down and lets me focus on whatever it is I need to do.
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Posted 27 October 2010 - 12:30 AM
when i'm nervous, i take a big breath and remind myself of how awesome i am hahaha. i like to look at each challenge as an opportunity to prove myself, so i overcome nervousness pretty easily (except when i get in trouble by my parents... nothing i can do in that situation except wait anxiously for hell to crash down on me)
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Posted 27 October 2010 - 09:09 AM
eh I hate talking in front of people...wait I hate talking to ppl in general <.< but when it comes to talking in class you should just imagine everyone in their underwear it really works!! of course don't pay too much attention to the girls... I usually speak at an inaudible and incredibly fast pace when im up in front of a class. another good way is to just yell out something embarassing to get the tension out of you. dont do impromptu speeches its always a bad idea!
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Posted 30 November 2011 - 02:58 AM
You just do it, I honestly would of looked at myself crazy if i told myself that before. Just can't think about it, the more you think the worst it gets. Just go all in or nothing at all. How I see it.
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Posted 07 December 2011 - 04:58 PM
If you're giving a speech in front of people, you should practice reading it a lot so that you don't stumble over words and phrases, and so that it all flows nicely.If you're giving a speech in front of people, you should practice reading it a lot so that you don't stumble over words and phrases, and so that it all flows nicely.
